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Bryan Hullihen Talks About the Importance of Solidarity

One of my favorite quotes is from an old coach of the New England Patriots quarterback Tom Brady. It's a simple quote yet extremely profound for me and in many ways has given me direction as a leader as well as a friend to others. This particular coach looked at Brady and said "I want to look into your eyes and see that you want the same thing I do." When I heard this I was immediately struck by how relevant and applicable this concept is to recovery from alcoholism and drug addiction. When groups work in solidarity amazing things happen; “Many hands make light work", "Two men can easily accomplish what one man struggles to achieve", and "Send a single man to scout but an army to conquer" are just a few maxims that illustrate this concept. I have observed the power of groups in achieving the shared goal of sobriety and I have lived that experience myself. Conversely, I have seen people isolate themselves and try to find recovery whose efforts in

Bryan Hullihen Shares Some Experiences, Strength, and Hope

It was over 10 years ago now, but I'll never forget the day I learned just how pervasive my alcoholic thoughts were. I was in early recovery, brand new in fact, when I would have these thoughts of lashing out, yelling, or just doing something taboo at the least opportune time. I was being helped by a man, a doctor, who later became my friend and mentor and since he was working me through the early days of my recovery from alcoholism I naturally went to talk to him. I explained my thoughts to him and he asked me if I acted on those thoughts and I, of course, said no. He then asked me if my bed was made, did I do all the things I was supposed to that day, and if I had tried to help another alcoholic to which I responded in the affirmative. He then said, "Welcome to early recovery. Your thoughts are crazy because alcoholism is a mental disorder that causes us to act crazy. Someone who isn't crazy doesn't drink their life to shambles. The good news is that the more you do

Bryan Hullihen and Balance in Expectations

Leaving treatment and entering a sober living program is a time in a newly recovering person's life that is considered a "high-risk situation."  Although (typically happy, exciting, and upbeat) if the transition is not handled appropriately chances for relapse are high. I, Bryan Hullihen frequently talk about managing expectations to my team when working with clients in transition from treatment to aftercare and a consistent impediment is introduced. The question frequently asked is: How do we raise self-efficacy of our clients by allowing them to pursue regular parts of life (job, friends, fun, etc.) while keeping them safe from the vulnerabilities of the high-risk situation in which they are in? Your best aftercare and sober living programs in Arizona consider this question, and several others like it, and present solutions for these obstacles. When searching for a sober living program be sure to ask them how they mitigate the chances of relapse during transition whil

Bryan Hullihen and Transcending Levels

Beginning where we are in our personal development is especially important for alcoholics and addicts. Too many people today have an idea of what their desired outcome for attaining their goals looks like and end up getting stuck in the mental visualization of their success while failing to do what is necessary to actually get there. This can have deadly consequences for the person in early recovery because, for them, to not reach their goal of long-term sobriety often results in serious consequences or even death. Learning to relax and take it easy while being engaged in each moment of the process of early recovery is of paramount importance to the addict and alcoholic. Understand, and truly believe, that all of our dreams and desires are only possible by focusing on the here and now and attending to the recovery process. My name is Bryan Hullihen and I am an alcoholic with several years of continuous sobriety and I can tell you, from experience, that everything good I have in my li

Bryan Hullihen and Accepting What is

As an alcoholic I have made so many mistakes over the years. I have landed in jails, prisons, and countless treatment centers. I have found myself homeless and, at times, too ashamed to call those who still love me for help. I have created so much wreckage in my past due to my alcoholism that even with several years of sobriety I haven't been able to make all of my amends yet. It's not that I haven't tried it just that there were so many I haven't been able to do them all yet. One night, not long ago, I was reflecting on my life and with years of sobriety and a moderate level of success in helping others improve their lives I began thinking about how I wanted others to see me. With that subtle character defect of mine working to creep back into my life a flood of fear and lack of acceptance followed. One of my primary defects of character is caring too much what others think of me. One of my favorite quotes is from Tom Brady - the QB for the New England Patriots - when

Bryan Hullihen's Experience With Changing His Belief System

My name is Bryan Hullihen and I am one of the founders of Paramount Recovery Services . The story of the development of our aftercare program has so much to do with my own personal recovery and the path that led me, and so many others, to living a life of sober independence. One of many aspects that allowed me to recover was working a total overhaul on my belief system. As some of you may know it is our belief system that guides our entire life - the mate we choose, our career path, our self-image, and the way we respond to others. We have a myriad of beliefs about worlds and these beliefs drive everything we do or don't do. The good news for people who have a behavior that they would like to change is they can do it at the level of the belief that is driving the behavior. It is also good to know that once the belief that is driving the behavior is changed the behavior itself changes. This is one reason why 12-step recovery movements and religion have been so successful in helpi

Bryan Hullihen and the Value of a Unified Front in Sober Living

My name is Bryan Hullihen and I have had the pleasure of working at several treatment centers over the years and owning several programs ranging from treatment to sober living. When I first began this journey, I remember being told that the problem of alcoholism and drug addiction is a family disease. When I was initially being trained and educated on this concept one of my college courses came to mind which was the concept of family dynamics. Family dynamics is, in short, the study and consideration of the family unit as a single organism. The unit is comprised of individual players who each play a role in the unit, however, the unit itself is the focus. The study goes on to explain how the unit fights to maintain what is called a homeostasis, balance, once its ‘set point’ is established. The concept of alcoholism and addiction fits nicely into this construct and if it was as easy to treat as it is to explain the success rates would be much higher. The concept of family dynamics is

Finding Success in Sobriety

My name is Bryan Hullihen and I have worked in the field of substance abuse treatment for several years now and have walked with hundreds of individuals over that time on the path of early recovery. Many people who begin the process of learning how to live a successful life in sobriety do so under false pretenses. The prevailing notion is that once a few weeks of abstinence has been achieved all that is needed is a little stability and arranging one's life to be as comfortable as possible. Comfort is an alluring distraction that, while enjoyable, should not be the primary aim. Now when I say comfort I'm talking about what many people in early recovery attempt to accomplish immediately following treatment; new car, high paying job, new boyfriend/girlfriend, etc. The goal must be sobriety and decisions must be made through the lens of recovery not comfort. The paradox for most people including myself, Bryan Hullihen , is that the more focus that is put on recovery the more all

Teachability

Bryan Hullihen  has worked with addicts and alcoholics in early recovery for several years now and has been a part of Paramount Recovery Services from the beginning. Bryan has witnessed lots of people come and go on their journey of recovery, however, the one thing he claims to be an axion regarding a person's adjustment to the recovery process is that the more teachable a person is the easier their transition is. Bryan Hullihen  himself will tell you that teachability can be learned which was, in fact, his experience. Many attempts at recovery left Bryan disillusioned to his own power concerning his ability to control his drinking or refrain from it entirely. It wasn't until Bryan learned that his thinking and his refusal to be led by others was contributing to his downfall did he begin to implement teachability in his own life. At Paramount RecoveryServices  Bryan Hullihen's story is one that guides our techniques when working with those in early recovery. Bryan Hul

Beginning with the End in Mind

My name is Bryan Hullihen and I have had the pleasure of working with Paramount Recovery Services LLC since 2014. There are many aspects of this program that I enjoy, however, one aspect that I find salient and believe to be particularly beneficial to the clients is the concept of beginning with the end in mind. When individuals enter into the Paramount Recovery Services program the primary address is that of dealing with the substance abuse issue. Decisions that are made at the staff, and client, level are made with recovery being the dictate of choice concerning plans and goals. The individual’s recovery is of paramount importance which is tantamount to client safety. With Paramount Recovery Services being an aftercare program where clients go to work or school, develop a sober support group, participate in activities, go to the gym, and learn to live their lives in a healthy manner it is important to allow the individual to design their life while in PRS to mirror what it will

Helping Others

Paramount Recovery Services has been open since 2014 and has helped over two hundred people put their lives back together in that time. My name is Bryan Hullihen and I am one of the founders of Paramount Recovery Services and I too am an alcoholic. When I first began my own personal recovery, I announced myself as an alcoholic begrudgingly and perfunctorily. At that time, I didn’t know that all of my past experiences would assist me in the future in helping others recover from their own suffering. When Paramount Recovery Services’ most recent census was delivered to me and I was shown how we have helped over two hundred people onto the road of sober independence I truly understood how my past was an asset in helping others. I have made my share of mistakes in life (more than my share actually) but through change and helping others my past mistakes no longer define me as a man. The things that define me today are the ways in which I can be of maximum service to others. Paramount Reco

Therapeutic Alliance

My name is Bryan Hullihen and I do consultation work for Paramount Recovery Services . Over the years I have had the pleasure of working with several treatment centers at varying levels of care which has provided me with exposure to many different methodologies concerning client care. One of things that I have learned over the years is the importance of the “therapeutic alliance” concerning an individual’s likelihood of completing treatment. Furthermore, those who complete the program’s requirements while taking direction through, and after, the treatment process have a much better chance of achieving long-term sobriety. Paramount Recovery Services is an aftercare program that serves as a bridge from treatment to living a life of sober independence. For the majority of the clients that come to our program they are coming to us after graduating their primary care setting. The client’s graduation proves the ability for the referring agency to have established a solid therapeutic allia